Tuesday, November 6, 2007

"So how's the wedding planning?"

One of the things that I like least about wedding planning is when people ask me, "How's the wedding planning going?" I know that people mean well, but there are a couple of things about it that makes me uncomfortable.

First, the question is almost exclusively aimed at me, although Calvin is playing an equal role in the process. That bothers me.

The second is that I'm just not that comfortable with talking about weddings with people in real life. My typical response is to shrug my shoulders and say something like, "It's going...I think." Maybe I feel that people are just trying to be polite and I don't want to talk their ears off about, oh, whether my dress should be ivory or diamond white? As much as I can get into the details of wedding planning, since I'm an organizer by nature, some of the stuff I really don't care about, and it is hard for me to believe that friends and family who are not intimately involved in the wedding process actually care about these things.

I'm so concerned about not being (or at least appearing) as a crazy obsessed bride that I don't have any idea how to actually talk about wedding planning. I'm the first of any of my close friends to get married, and I'm just not sure how to handle the social interactions part. Blogging and participating in online communities is my primary outlet for wedding things- so when with my friends, I would much rather talk about my research or a new movie than about the color of tablecloths.

Does anyone else feel this way? And does anyone have any suggestions about a better response to "So, how's the wedding planning?"


mnc said...

"I'm just not that comfortable with talking about weddings with people in real life..."

That's hilarious. I understand. I KNOW that noone can be remotely as interested in my wedding as I am. And when I start talking about it, I do start to sound all obsessed, so I refrain!

My blog, too, is my greatest outlet. And whoever cares about the planning reads it:)

Bisous said...

I asked you about that! Crap! I'm sorry. Just so you know, I love hearing about it and I don't think you sound obsessed.